When we complete relationships in our lives, there are key sentiments that need to expressed to help us accomplish these completions. According to Byock (1997) this includes: "I Love You," "I Forgive You," "Forgive Me," "Thank You," and "Goodbye."
This song cycle is about episodes of relationship completion with four terminally ill patients living their last days. Each participant engaged in various levels of relationship completion including: intrapersonal, interpersonal, transpersonal, or combined. These persons and their significant others were part of a study that looked at the role of music therapy intended to facilitate relationship completion.
The collection of songs is an artistic portrayal of the research study's results and thematic analyses. I have selected songs to represent each participant's experiences. The songs represent key sentiments that participants expressed to help them complete the relationships that they identified as significant to them at this point in their lives.
For Gloria and Jack, the core sentiment to complete their relationship with each other was to express love. Gloria did this through dedicating the song I Love You to Jack. She also celebrated their love in the song Can't Help Falling in Love with You, and she expressed her love and appreciation to Jack in writing the song, Thank You for Loving Me.
Yetta needed to forgive herself, and in doing so she re-examined, and re-experienced her childhood feelings and memories. She expressed feeling alone and lived for many years without a sense of her identity growing up as a child survivor of the Holocaust. The song Out Here on My Own embodies that sense of aloneness. At the end of her life, Yetta was saying goodbye and Over the Rainbow represents her transition from this world to her next place of being.
Spiritual questions were prominent in Peter's experience, and through hymns Peter identified his need to complete the relationship with himself. Amazing Grace was one of the hymns that facilitated his insights and transformation and helped him forgive himself. Ave Maria was a song that Peter enjoyed hearing as he said it brought him peace.
Bill needed to assess and express his grieving process in the death of his first wife Rebecca. He engaged in this process as he began writing a play about his life. Several songs in the play are in an operatic style and Habanera was a song that inspired his original pieces. Bill also desired to express his love and gratitude to Sarah by writing The Love I Feel for You Sarah.
For the CODA I selected the song Fix You as an expression from me about the process of participating in these music therapy sessions as the music therapist, and also as a way for me to say goodbye to my participants.
CD Song List
Love
Gloria and Jack
I Love You
Can't Help Falling in Love with You
Thank You for Loving Me
Goodbye
Yetta
Out Here on My Own
Over the Rainbow
Forgiveness
Peter
Amazing Grace
Ave Maria
Thank You
Bill and Sarah
The Love I Feel for You Sarah
Habanera from Carmen
Coda
Amy
Fix You
Vocals: Amy Clements-Cortes
Piano: Sincere Tung
Editing and Mastering: Ted Onyszczak
Mastering: Andy Krehm
Recorded at: University of Windsor, Windsor, On. and Silverbirch Productions, Toronto, On.
Mechanical Licenses
I Love You, Tyde Music Publishing
Can't Help Falling in Love With You, Pocket Songs.
Out Here on My Own, Over the Rainbow and Fix You, CMRRA
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